The above social media post is a true story. Many years ago, I climbed the Great Wall of China, a thrilling adventure and lifelong dream. Despite the dopamine lift from the thrilling experience, I still was able to find ice cream that night when I purchased a magnum ice cream bar at a local ice cream shop in China. I have an embarrassing story that I video recorded last year of my daughter retelling the time when I ate the entire candy cane pie from Village Inn Restaurant. Sadly, I can't go back and undo the lesson of selfishness I taught my children. So, the truth is that my streak is either pie or ice cream (or both); I can tell you that it was ice cream on most days. As of this writing, I have gone 16 months without sugar (explicitly in a desert item).
I had a friend who once said, "You can't lead others where you aren't willing to go yourself." In recent years, I became brutally aware of my bad habits. I sit, listen and talk for a living, in that order, but I gradually became aware that I am a pie and ice-cream eating comfort seeker. But change goes much deeper for me than leaving my comfort zone and not eating ice cream. I had realized that my professional work led to psychological burnout. I coped with tragedy in some unhealthy ways. It took me a long time to realize that I had become emotionally numb and gradually lost empathy. I am deeply grateful for the several wake up calls I received over the last few years and the subsequent deep healing that I've experienced. Most notably, I write in detail about a personal breakthrough in May, 2019 in my newest book.
I have started a "Does Dad Change" Series. What will this look like? I don't know. I'm open to any suggestions. I do know that one of the best gifts we can give our kids is the gift that Dad changes. An obvious reminder is that everyone is on their own journey. Don’t fall for the comparison trap. Each of us are marked with our own unique challenges. The question is -- What in you needs to change?
“Does Dad Change” is a unique Parenting Doctors Series that incorporates my own journey as well as the journey of some of my clients (and friends). Change is one of the best words in life. What in you needs to change? Is it behaviors associated to diabetes? A porn addiction? Erectile Dysfunction? An alcohol problem? Anger? Avoidance? Messiness? Workaholic? Lack of Prayer Life? Affectionate ONLY when you want sex? Do you Avoid Conflict? You don’t know how to talk to your teenager without yelling? Do you have evidence that you change?
Join the REAL REVOLUTION! Does Dad Change? Feel free to comment on how you’re changing!
THIS CHANGE PARTY IS JUST GETTING STARTED!
I had a friend who once said, "You can't lead others where you aren't willing to go yourself." In recent years, I became brutally aware of my bad habits. I sit, listen and talk for a living, in that order, but I gradually became aware that I am a pie and ice-cream eating comfort seeker. But change goes much deeper for me than leaving my comfort zone and not eating ice cream. I had realized that my professional work led to psychological burnout. I coped with tragedy in some unhealthy ways. It took me a long time to realize that I had become emotionally numb and gradually lost empathy. I am deeply grateful for the several wake up calls I received over the last few years and the subsequent deep healing that I've experienced. Most notably, I write in detail about a personal breakthrough in May, 2019 in my newest book.
I have started a "Does Dad Change" Series. What will this look like? I don't know. I'm open to any suggestions. I do know that one of the best gifts we can give our kids is the gift that Dad changes. An obvious reminder is that everyone is on their own journey. Don’t fall for the comparison trap. Each of us are marked with our own unique challenges. The question is -- What in you needs to change?
“Does Dad Change” is a unique Parenting Doctors Series that incorporates my own journey as well as the journey of some of my clients (and friends). Change is one of the best words in life. What in you needs to change? Is it behaviors associated to diabetes? A porn addiction? Erectile Dysfunction? An alcohol problem? Anger? Avoidance? Messiness? Workaholic? Lack of Prayer Life? Affectionate ONLY when you want sex? Do you Avoid Conflict? You don’t know how to talk to your teenager without yelling? Do you have evidence that you change?
Join the REAL REVOLUTION! Does Dad Change? Feel free to comment on how you’re changing!
THIS CHANGE PARTY IS JUST GETTING STARTED!
